Emotional affairs defined as: they think about other women. Yes think about them. Want to help them. Or be with them. Talk to them. Confide in them. Share thoughts with them. Converse with them. Maybe even tell them a joke at the water cooler.
I’m going to go out on a limb and say, as far as I can tell, there is NO SUCH THING as an emotional affair. And any woman who is going to get her panties in a wad because her man talks to or thinks about another female should go commando for a few days and liberate herself.
Come on, people!!
Here’s the deal. Everyone THINKS!
My grandma used to gush about Paul Newman (yeah, really the salad dressing guy) and my mom had the hots for Tom Selleck (yes, I’ll admit it, but I don’t know if she will). Does that mean they were having an emotional affairs?
Really, what does it take to have an emotional affair? An imagination? Creativity? Desire?
If my grandma was daydreaming about Paul Newman, is it any big deal? What if she turned her head during s3x with my grandpa and imagined Paul breathing on her neck instead? Is that an emotional affair? PLEASE!
I call it being HUMAN.
Sure I wish William lusted after me and only me. But I know he is a man with hormones and blood cells and erectile functions and an imagination. I bet at least once in our dozen plus years together he’s looked at some hot chick and though “I bet she’d be fun.”
But we have something called trust. That means I trust him to keep it in his pants and he trusts me to keep my pants on.
Because the way we define an affair, it’s about doing it, really doing it not just thinking about it.
There’s fantasy and then there’s reality. In reality an affair is actually doing it – and we all have the same definition of it, right?