tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post8074150187763436687..comments2023-04-29T06:53:02.973-07:00Comments on S3XinthePantry: A girl, A boy, and a magazineS3XinthePantryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11838007073775158370noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-80179672493923871112009-11-15T13:43:04.705-08:002009-11-15T13:43:04.705-08:00I feel for your niece and your son. And there are ...I feel for your niece and your son. And there are way too many guys like that one in the magazine. When my oldest started to date I was so afraid of her running into the guy in the magazine. She has met them, but, thank God, hasn't dated them. I wish childhood didn't end so abruptly with the teen years. For me it was boys and green eye shadow.SurprisedMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11474705305996978532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-18911315063162049402009-10-22T15:18:22.951-07:002009-10-22T15:18:22.951-07:00Hi! Popping over from SITS roll call to visit.
It...Hi! Popping over from SITS roll call to visit.<br /><br />It was hard enough being a teenagers back in my days, I can't imagine being a teen these days. I have a beautiful blond haired 16 y/o niece who also changed over night, died her hair black, pierced her nose, her lip, and wears heavy thick theatrical makeup. She keeps trying to make herself look "not ugly." <br /><br />Great post.Mary | Deep South Dishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06030573009618096220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-73115233251569718302009-10-21T18:05:02.433-07:002009-10-21T18:05:02.433-07:00I cant imagine what it is like to be a girl and tr...I cant imagine what it is like to be a girl and trying so hard to fit in with a clique. All I had to do was be good at sports, and talk to girls. Not saying that it was easy to be a young man around them though.... they are much smarter and more socially conscious than we are at an early age. BUt I can tell you that everything comes out even in the end. Somehow we all meet in the middle someday.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02971153135877504973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-79341993344604519022009-10-21T14:32:54.785-07:002009-10-21T14:32:54.785-07:00It's a lot of talking with them about it. Mos...It's a lot of talking with them about it. Most of the information they get is from TV and magazines which is all crap. However at that age it's all they have.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641318104807962051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-57920240393307460052009-10-21T14:00:04.638-07:002009-10-21T14:00:04.638-07:00I am so glad I have sons. It is so hard to be a g...I am so glad I have sons. It is so hard to be a girl in this day and society. I will also be doing my best to teach my sons well about girls, to do my part in breaking down these issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-72886757406702692602009-10-21T11:42:18.820-07:002009-10-21T11:42:18.820-07:00Ugh. So sad that your niece said that. That age i...Ugh. So sad that your niece said that. That age is so tough, I think I've blocked most of it out!Stereos and Souffleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13721526839720168802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-77499037801111084492009-10-21T08:55:25.621-07:002009-10-21T08:55:25.621-07:00Sigh. I actually have an 18 yr old daughter (19 in...Sigh. I actually have an 18 yr old daughter (19 in January), who picked out a guy she liked and liyerally let him use her for months and months. She was convinced that she could "make him change and REALLY like her". He treated her like crap. Kept her in tears. Yet she wouldn't dump him. No matter what I said or advice I gave. She was obsessed.<br /><br />Miraculously, he nearly lost a parent and had a huge AH HA moment. They now have (I guess) a normal relationship. <br /><br />I guess my point (do I really have one?) is that when they get to a certain age...you lose control of their lives. So, hug them lots, bolster that self esteem, TALK, talk, talk to them. I have 7 more kids to get through puberty. I'm scared.Martiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13097374409001213586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-20187620007747561712009-10-20T14:54:25.215-07:002009-10-20T14:54:25.215-07:00The youth of this day...I wish they didn't gro...The youth of this day...I wish they didn't grow up so fast!monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16192307518144845441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-16726791836275808082009-10-20T13:38:09.233-07:002009-10-20T13:38:09.233-07:00its all so awful it freaks me out too, I want my d...its all so awful it freaks me out too, I want my daughter to feel good about herself and not have to change to GET someone to like her, what to do? just keeping trying to teach them the right way and never let them out of the house, hmmmmmmmm maybeLeah Maya Benjaminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18167997949670119040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-39473596198425350472009-10-20T13:28:53.498-07:002009-10-20T13:28:53.498-07:00a lot of feelings stir within me as i read and re-...a lot of feelings stir within me as i read and re-read this. i made great efforts to look skanky (what i thought sexy) because i wanted boys to "want" me(so gross)....and lots of them did...for s3x. and for a while i would be high from the achievement. this followed by a ridiculous hope that they would then decide to like or love me. i see now i was soooo broken from feeling unloved, unheard, unimportant. i like to think that girls who feel close and loved by their parents do things differently. and the important part of my statement is "feeling loved". my parents will say they loved me. they were cold and angry and hostile with all people most of the time. i felt criticized, unworthy, unlovable and angry of course.<br />thank goodness we have only sons and we move heaven and earth to keep those love tanks full, just so they will be able to like themselves and others enough to make choices that are healthy. thanks for the distractionDoThat4Uhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769459644006578253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-30697976095175701022009-10-20T11:20:01.810-07:002009-10-20T11:20:01.810-07:00Ahhh Youth!! I remember not liking my son's f...Ahhh Youth!! I remember not liking my son's first really serious girlfriend because she was HAWT!! Got to know her and still didn't like her - had to endure that relationship for close to seven years. <br /><br />Wish we could instill some of our wisdom in these teenagers -- attraction comes from inside - ok real true attraction.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17563699438451685394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-74258175807644428342009-10-20T08:54:18.697-07:002009-10-20T08:54:18.697-07:00That guy in the magazine is totally one of the man...That guy in the magazine is totally one of the many reasons why girls grow thinkin' the outside of us matters so much more than the inside... I kinda want to chop his man jewels off... I am soooo glad I am out of those 'boob growing/what does french kissing really feel like/i want to wear tighter clothes but my mom wont let me' high school days... growin' up is freakin' hard....Ashley Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07256455852939735398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-28916953086416757932009-10-20T08:17:54.222-07:002009-10-20T08:17:54.222-07:00What a great post! I was a lot like your niece wh...What a great post! I was a lot like your niece when I was younger than her. I wish someone had told me that I would have to like myself before anyone else would "really" like me. This is one of the reasons why we homeschool our kids. My girls are girly girls but they hardly wear makeup but they do paint their nails. They like the library and I'm happy that they like reading. As for your niece, boys and men are turned on by appearances but they're going to notice the T-bars and bra before the eyeliner, you know? Maybe you can explain to her that at 13, she might not want the boys to like her for the wrong reasons and discuss topics like the one in the magazine? I always tell my girls not to hurry up to become an adult because once you're an adult, you are one for the rest of your life. You only get one chance at a childhood. Give her a hug from me!<br />As for your son, whose name I love, btw, since boys and girls are wired so differently, I think it's hard for some boys to meet girls. I wish it were easier for some boys to just be themselves around girls. Even if they feel like the girl is out of her league and talk to them and get to know them. <br />As for the article in the magazine, I have no comment. Except for that it probably wasn't the best sex ever for her. He seems pretty selfish, if you know what I mean.<br /><br />Hugs!!Green-Eyed Momsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175981627284967050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-35681998057128235412009-10-20T07:05:02.118-07:002009-10-20T07:05:02.118-07:00Stuff like this is why I don't know if I want ...Stuff like this is why I don't know if I want kids. Dealing with all that freaks me out.<br /><br />Hopefully as your niece matures she'll figure out her own style. 13 seems so young for eyeliner and padded bras.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06961186041071578537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2880770605315801304.post-21946371635177259702009-10-20T06:27:54.047-07:002009-10-20T06:27:54.047-07:00This is why part of me wants to raise my children ...This is why part of me wants to raise my children on a hippie commune. I don't want my girls to dress like mini-tramps so they can have boyfriends and I don't want my boys treating other girls like the mini-tramps they're pretending to be.<br /><br />I guess I should just be happy I don't have kids yet.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10258060786685150002noreply@blogger.com